LIFE AS SHE SEES IT : VICTIM by Adesuwa

Sola’s head was banging. She wished there was a way she could just make the activities playing in her head go still.

“Kai…” she winced.

She had been thinking non-stop for over two weeks now. She gently massaged her temple and glanced at the nurses busy at the counter in the reception room. If it were another hospital, she would have been impatient, but Bcee’s wellness center was one of the best.

She decided to take her mind off her pounding head and took in her surroundings… a fussy baby and his mother sat at the far corner of the room, the baby had refuted all attempts to pacify him in the past 10 minutes. 

“is not better for him to just cry so we know that he is crying…” she muttered to herself. To her it was better than having him crawling over his mum and making a mess of the whole place with the piece of bread he was holding. At that thought she knew she was officially sick.

In the midst of her musings, a lady came and sat just beside her.

“Good morning” she greeted, giving her a quick glance.

“Hello” the lady replied rather flippantly and adjusted her shades.

Sola shifted, and thought to herself “na me find trouble o! kilon je ‘hello’?...” and why was she wearing thick shades indoors? She looked at her watch, they had told her she would wait 30 minutes, she had 15 minutes to go. She was here for an MRI scan…this was the fifth time she was going through this procedure. Her doctor advised that a full scan of her head be done, especially of her brain since the drugs prescribed hardly worked… she was getting tired of needles, white walls and that stringent antiseptic smell. The last time she cried while being injected with contrast dye, not because of the pain but because she felt so helpless… She shook off the thoughts and sighed deeply.

“Ebi! Sorry for keeping you waiting” one of the nurses rushed to the lady’s side. “Sorry eh, I saw your message late this morning”

It was obvious that the lady and the nurse had a personal relationship. “oh oh? Eyaa!  she must have been crying that’s why she wore the shades! Me and my thoughts sef!” Sola chided herself

“hmmmm..” the lady broke in tears, as she did the nurse helped her take off the shades and she flinched, while the nurse looked away.

Sola gasped as the shades came off, she didn’t know when she did. The lady had an ugly gash just above her eyes. It looked like she had tried to stop it from bleeding with violet paint… the skin around the wound was discoloured, and needed care…

”what happened to you!”  the nursed asked in shock.

The lady hurriedly stood up and beckoned on the nurse to follow her, while muttering “I fell”.

Sola still sat frozen and like a movie, some acts played in her head. That was how she used to tell her friends…”I fell”. She had been married until last week. She looked down to her fingers, the marks of her wedding band was still visible. She kept replying a scene in her head…

She was hurriedly trying to finish up dinner for her husband “I’m coming!” she called out. This was the second time he had shouted her name. She was clearly shaking…if only she left work 5pm on the dot, she would not need to rush dinner. While making frantic efforts, he came in….

“Sola kilon se e?! Is it that a man is not allowed to eat in his house again?! And I have been calling you, you didn’t come?! Ahnahn”! he was boiling

She trembled, “Oko mi e ma binu, dinner is almost ready. Please give me 10 minutes and I…” she was still talking while facing the cooker trying to salvage the situation, when she heard “BANG!” on the side of her head. Next she lay crumpled on the floor, jerking, slowly ebbing out. He had use the toaster to hit her. 

She was experiencing a seizure, as she faded into oblivion she recalled her doctor saying “Mrs Ademola, you need to stay away from your husband. If this continues I would have you checked into a rehabilitation home. It is not normal to want to keep living in such condition. This is the eighth time you have been rushed here, incessant seizures would damage your brain and you could become sort of an epileptic.”…her seizures had started some months ago, she was told that it was as a result of being hit repeatedly on her head…that day Jide had pushed her from the top of the stairs, she lost their baby…

She followed her Doctor’s advice and packed of her matrimonial home. She had enlisted Justina’s help because she was still weak from the recent ordeal and was felt numb. Justina was her childhood friend. That day Jide had gone to work, so they hurriedly packed her things and left. She was yet to inform her Mother about her decision to leave her home. The last time she confided in her mother, she concluded her life was in her hands…

“Sola! Sola! Sola! How many times have I called you? Men are like that. They always want to show they are in charge. Just be respectful, be humble, shower him with praises…” Her mother advised, and as she went on and on, Sola knew she had to act fast and immediately deleted her Mother from the equation.

She felt someone nudging her arm and came back to reality, a nurse was standing beside her, touching her arm lightly “madam, the doctor would see you now” the normal procedure was for the doctor to examine her to be sure she was safe to do the scan and then she would be injected with contrast dye, this makes certain tissues and blood vessels show up more clearly and in greater detail.

She turned her lost eyes to the nurse and slowly got up…”My head aches” she whispered but loud enough for the nurse to hear. Where did she go wrong? Jide used to love her so much. What changed? She noticed his domineering attitude while they courted but she dismissed it, because he was always quick to make amends and shower care on her. Clearly, something snapped when they got married. It started with verbal abuse, then he started slapping her and soon he graduated to beating her to a pulp.

“oh sorry about that, you would be given some pain killers….” And the nurse kept talking. Sola was in her own world, she heard nothing.

N. B- This is for all women who have been victims of abuse, whether physical, emotional or psychological. My heart goes out to you all, please and please get help while you can. It is not cowardice to seek help and to admit weakness.

ADESUWA

WORST WORD EVER...

I can’t do this…

I can’t do that…

I can’t afford this…

I can’t make time for this…

How about stop making those excuses and focusing on what you CAN do??!!

Using this word CAN’T in your everyday vocabulary engrains negativity into your subconsciousness. It becomes a part of you; your go-to answer. It literally stops you from being the best version of yourself.

“Can’t afford a gym membership…” -what of the thousands of free exercises on you-tube and the internet?

Example:

10 squats

10 push ups

20 sit-ups

20 skips

Repeat as many times as possible within 15 minutes and you are done.

“Can’t make time…” –you have the same 24 hours like everyone else (who is making time for it), it is your priorities that are misplaced and you CAN choose to make better use of your time e.g watching less T.V, waking 20 minutes earlier, spending less time on Instagram and Facebook etc. like I always say, you make time for what is important to you. A man, no matter how busy will make time to chase a girl around and woo her when she is still doing her “shakara” (of course we all know what happens later when she finally says yes. Lol) My point is, if you want it bad, you will make time for it.

“Can’t cook…”- oh comm’on! You are not a child anymore. It irks me when I hear ladies say that. Some even think it’s a thing of pride. SMH. My dear, get some basic skills, brush it up with the countless cooking guides anyone can find online. Recipes, how to make simple and complex dishes, where to even shop for them. Everything is on the internet now. You can’t claim to be that ignorant!

The instructions you need to achieve ANYTHING you want to achieve is out there. You just ain’t looking yet.

You CAN achieve your goals, you just need to ditch the negative mindset and do ONE thing today that can help you move towards a better position for yourself.

 Believe in yourself, and surround yourself with others who believe in you also.

 If you want to make a change you might need to drop a few people along the way, you know, the negative naysayers who aren't achieving anything and want to drag you down with them.

 It's not easy, but sometimes people just have to go. Yes.

 After all, it is said (and has been proven) that you are the average of the people you surround yourself with.

 If you surround yourself with negativity, bitterness and stress, how do you expect to break free and achieve YOUR dreams?

 So this is your call to action. A wake up call.

Do you want a leaner, healthier body and mind set?

Are you frustrated with where you are right now?

Have you been contemplating whether or not to start that business idea? 

stop waiting.

July is already over. Just 155 days to the end of 2014. More than enough time to start doing something. Stop sitting on the couch and giving excuses while waiting for a miracle to happen. That miracle you want will be done through you.

THERE IS NO BETTER TIME TO START THAN NOW!

Love, always,

ELLA…xxx

GOD ISN'T THE PROBLEM...

Naturally, I am almost always in a panic mode. My friends who know me well are used to me freaking about everything from my school work to small things like keeping time for an appointment. So on this certain day I read about how a woman is born with about 1-2 million eggs but with each menstrual cycle, 1,000 of them are lost. Research says that by the time she is 30 years old, she has only about 12% of them left. Apparently, in a woman’s life time just 400 eggs out of the 1-2 million eggs will ever mature. Phew! (see link below)

The first thing that came to my mind was “darn! I need to start having babies!” Dang! Dang!! Panic mode activated. LOL.

As funny and harmless as it was, this piece of information was on my mind for about 3 days. During one of those days I was reminded of Sarah in the bible who had no eggs, whose womb must have shrivelled due to old age, who probably didn’t have appetite for sex anymore and who had accepted her fate as a barren woman (reason why she tried to help God to fulfil his promise by giving her maid to her husband). But when God decided it was her time, Isaac came forth!

I knew it had to be God reminding me of this story to make me understand that no matter how much I worry about life from now till eternity, I can’t change a thing until he is ready to. The truth is, worrying is a waste of time. When we worry we are simply rotating our minds round and round our concerns and coming up with no answers. The more we do it, the more anxious we get and it becomes a habit .Most of us are like that. Always worrying our heads out and getting depressed by our problems, news we hear or information we read. “oh, what happens if I lose my job?”, "oh, what will happen to me when i age?" “oh, what if the stock market crashes?” And you know what? Most of our worries have no basis or any truth in them.

We forget that all it takes is for the maker to step in and our lack of trust pushes us to try to solve our problems ourselves. Bribing our way through to get a contract or a job. Cheating the next person to make more profit. Stealing our way into riches. We are constantly in a hurry to make things happen forgetting again that God himself makes all things beautiful in his own time.

The problem isn’t God, the problem is with us. Our panic and worrying screams “I DON’T TRUST YOU!” to God.

These few months I am learning to switch off my panic button and simply trust God even for the smallest of things because he has the future all planned and knows the answer to everything. We all need to learn to relax and rest in the assurance that He’s got our back. He is Aware of you and will always show up, not a minute later than you need him.

KEEP CALM AND STOP WORRYING!

Love always,

Ella…xxx


N.B- <http://www.nhs.uk/news/2010/01January/Pages/ovum-egg-cell-numbers-and-fertility.aspx>

    <http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/women-and-their-eggs-how-many-and-how-long>

THE OTHER WOMAN ... by Ella

“If only I met you earlier…”

How many times have you heard this line from a guy you liked before? I for one have heard it a number of times so I know it’s not a new phrase in the market. So a friend of mine called me last week to tell me she had been dumped. Apparently, the guy she was dating, who also had a girlfriend as at the time she started seeing him (she was aware), had just played one of the oldest trick in men’s book on her. All the while he made her believe he was “not so into my girlfriend” and he was looking for a way to leave her. To make his performance look real, he rarely said anything nice about her to my friend. Sadly, she believed him. But as I write this, today is his introduction and his traditional wedding is fixed for next month. To the same girl he was not so into.  

I can imagine someone saying “that girl sef, what was she thinking in the first place? Mtchew…”  Love never jam you before abi? Will be my reply. Most times we are victims of the things we least expect. Sigh…

 This is how it plays out:

Boy (who already has a girlfriend) meets girl (single). Although he’s meant to be “off limit” something sparks between them (we can’t help some of these things can we?) A few hang-outs and some stolen kisses later, girl begins to think something COULD work out.  Boy sees he has the girl’s attention and starts complaining about his girlfriend (who he will never leave for you of course.) and says this frequently “I really wish I met you earlier, things would have been different….”

TRANSLATION:

“I'm not totally into you and I'm still weighing my options. If I plant the seed in your head that one day... it might be YOU, you will stay emotionally attached to me and continue hoping that one day WE will work out. When I'm lonely and bored, I will call you, ping you or text you. I have no intentions of being with you or marrying you, as a matter of fact-- I'm NOWHERE near that thought! I just tell you what you want to hear until I am ready to marry THE ONE in my life. Until then, you will be readily available if I need a date or some loving. Then, one day-- I will pull the plug and end this.”

Girl, being an emotional creature by nature, gullible, Starry-eyed and who is moved more by what she hears, hears and believes the opposite of what boy actually meant. She actually begins to think she has a chance with him. Mistakes his attention towards hers for love when what he is actually doing is using her to cure his boredom or when can’t get his main chick to satisfy a need, plays on her emotions and after a year or so he goes ahead to marry Number 1 and guess what? Girl is left in the cold. Alone.

The feeling of loss and betrayal overwhelms the girl at this point. But the truth is that YOU NEVER HAD HIM! He was never yours. Never.  You were just a pawn on his chess board and he simply played you. Mission accomplished.

Yes, it is hard.  Ah! Very hard o. But I learnt my lessons, picked myself up and moved on.

My dear friend has just wasted 15months of her life in a relationship built on false hope. No lady deserves to be toyed with that way. We need to understand that God made us special, with so much VALUE, WORTH and SUBSTANCE and should never give any player the satisfaction of mistreating us.

Playing the role of “THE OTHER WOMAN” is one of the hardest thing to do. Trust me I know. Each time I watch Olivia Pope in SCANDAL waiting for President Fitz to finally give up his life so that their life together can begin I feel so sad for her because I know from experience that it ain’t gonna happen! It is one of the most difficult things to do because you are literally watching your life pass you by while he is busy living his!

Sweetheart, any man who comes around with such a lame line does not deserve a minute of your attention. Do not let yourself be strung along. He is only creating a mirage for you and believe me, he is not worth the pain and ache he will cause you when he finally plays you and dumps you for who he really wants.

Why let yourself be a side kick when you can be a major? Why settle for a second class position when someone out there will be honoured to make you his queen? There are no benefits of being a mistress/other woman. None. So do yourself a favour, CUT OFF such a man, tell him off and do whatever you have to do to keep moving so the right man can find you!

The end.

Love, always,

ELLA…XX


N.B- this piece was inspired by a true life story and Heather Lindsey (heatherllindsey.blogspot.com)

WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF????? .....by Ella

Courage is not the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important than fear. -Ambrose Redmoon

Imprisoned by herself...

FEAR. That sick unsettled feeling you get in your stomach. A state of PANIC that can overtake you without notice. We have all experienced it. Everyone is at one point or the other afraid of something. Personally, going by scriptures I believe that fear is a spirit (For God has not given us the spirit of fear….2Timothy 1:7) and this spirit is definitely not from God. We are only consumed by it when we let our guards down as humans and forget who we are in Christ. It is a master spirit the devil uses to keep us where he wants us to be. Down.

Fear is the reason why we do a lot of things. Think about it. How many of the problems you currently have are tied to fear? Trust me, most if not all have something to do with being afraid. All of our worries come from fear. We try to control people and situations as a result of fear. We let people control us -what we say or do- because of fear. This indirectly means that some of us live in a perpetual state of fear without knowing we are controlled by it.

I look around me and I notice that FEAR actually regulates most of the activities we carry out from day to day. For instance, it is not news that the average Nigerian politician get greedy and loots money when he/she gets into government. Why? Because of the fear of being poor. Same applies to people who are stingy. Someone who is afraid of not having friends or being alone pretends to be who he or she isn’t just to become acceptable by certain people. A lady stays in a hurtful and abusive relationship simply because she is afraid of being alone or afraid of what people might say (probably because she has been in the relationship for a long time and she has told all her friends that she is getting married). Another lady stays in a sexual relationship with her boss, not because she loves him but because she has been told it is her only ticket to keeping her job. Of course she is afraid to lose that too, especially with the bad economy where there are no jobs as good as what she has. Fear will make a woman purposely get pregnant for a man because she is afraid if she loses him she might not get another. Another will abort a baby because she is afraid of the shame that will haunt her and what the world will say.  A student goes into an exam hall with “expo” or “bullets” because of fear. He/she is afraid to fail. (Who doesn’t like success?) The list goes on and on.

I began thinking seriously about this issue recently and it made me think about people in the past who had to deal with the same issues we face. These people had a CHOICE to succumb to fear or rise above it.  Imagine if ABRAHAM refused to go pack his things and family to the “place” where God will show him. He had no idea where this place was and God didn’t say. HE just said “get up and go …” He had the right to be afraid of leaving the people he was used to, his job and friends for an unknown place. But he packed up and went. JOSEPH could have been afraid of losing his job in Potiphar’s house and succumbed to the advances of Potiphar’s wife out of fear. But he didn’t. He chose to do what was right. (Do we have such men today?) Imagine also that DAVID was too afraid to confront goliath. He was merely a kid u know (about 15-17 years old) and could have let Fear drown his confidence. But he did not. DANIEL could have been afraid of being killed when the king made a decree that no one should pray to another god. What did he do? He opened his windows wide and prayed 3 times a day even though he knew he would be thrown into the Lion’s den when found. Same can be said of SHADRACH, MESHACH and ABEDNEGO. We all know the story of the burning furnace right? Shouldn’t they have been afraid of burning to death? Honestly, I think I would have bowed down to the damn golden image and asked God for forgiveness later. He’s a merciful God and will understand abi?

Now let’s imagine MARY, the mother of Jesus was afraid of being pregnant and being taunted by everyone that she didn’t marry as a virgin? I imagine she could have told the angel after listening to his plan for her “ah! Abeg o I can’t! What will people say? My friends, my parents?? Mba o. please I can’t. The shame will be too much biko.” I also imagine the angel would have gone back to God with her answer and probably another Virgin who wasn't afraid would have been chosen. Finally, let’s imagine that JESUS, in his human form was suddenly overcome by fear of being nailed to the cross (I don’t want to imagine that pain!) As the time of his death drew near, He could have thought about it and told his father “Dad, I think we should figure out another way to save humanity. I don’t want to die a painful humiliating death”. I don’t even want to imagine what would have become of us if he was afraid and didn't die for us.

I can literally hear someone saying, ahan! Ella these are ancient people na. Ok. Follow me and Let me bring it down to people we can all relate to. MARGARET THATCHER. The mere fact she was a woman was enough to make her scared of going into politics in the first place let alone becoming the first female prime minister in England. And do you know she was the first prime minister to be elected three times in England? She wasn't afraid of wadding into a world dominated by men. NELSON MANDELA wasn't afraid of his life as he fought for the freedom and fairness for his people. BARACK OBAMA wasn't afraid that his skin colour could be a road block to his being elected president of the most powerful nation on earth. GOODLUCK JONATHAN (yes, our dear president) could have been consumed by fear of the fact that people from minorities such as him were ever elected to the exalted seat in the land even if all the god-fathers said he would win. But guess what? He did anyway! (Ok people, let’s not get into whether he has been the best we have had or not).

All I am simply trying to say is that to be afraid is a CHOICE. These people, like us today, had a choice to make.  Once you let FEAR suffocate your senses, you lose sight of POSSIBILITIES! Of who you really are! Yes! There is SOooo MUCH you can do if only you can stop magnifying fear and giving it a front seat in your life.  KICK IT OUT!

What are you afraid of? Fear of not getting your dream job? Of being too honest in what you do and not making enough money?  Fear of getting married late? Fear of losing your friends? Fear of being different from others because you choose to stick to good principles? some of us are even afraid of ourselves. Believe me, it’s all a mirage.  Now, I will tell you one truth. The moment you understand what fear really is –a spirit that has no place in our lives –you conquer it and you become LIMITLESS! You begin to see things with fresh pair of eyes and start taking steps you didn’t imagine you could take. You realise that all you need to do is BE YOURSELF and DEPEND on GOD to sort things out. You then begin to see that there is no need for a lot of things that we do daily: lying, pretending, being fake, embezzling, etc because we do these things to impress some people or be recognised by society.  When we start doing funny things like these, we are simply saying “God, I do not trust you and your plans so amma go help myself while u are remain my back up” ( some of us don’t even have God as backup plan sef. We think we are all-sufficient)

Refuse to let FEAR rule your actions. Boldly confront your fears in the face and one day you will discover that the things that frightened you the most were really NOTHING at all.

THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF!

FEAR NOTHING except God.

Love, always,

Ella…xxx

CHANGE THAT MIND SET!! ...by Ella

….Again does it surprise you that Kanye West, the famous rapper

fell for Kim? It shouldn't because as you may already know. . .

Men love slim, fit and beautiful women.

                                                         If you are even a bit overweight, you need to slim down fast

so you can keep your husband glued at home with eyes only for you…

Sounds familiar? Sigh…

I didn’t plan to write today but after I saw this in my mailbox this afternoon I got infuriated and felt I should .It’s actually an excerpt from one of the  diet and fitness blogs I subscribe to. Reading through this made me sick! U know why? Because it’s messages like this that continuously keep ladies like you and me on the edge! Depressed! Feeling inadequate! That we don't measure up! Messages like this do nothing but try to make you self-conscious and desperate to look like someone you are not. It is said that women have more inferiority complex than men. It is because the society we now find ourselves in have made us so. We have been soaked and brain-washed with the idea that we have to look a certain way and be like some certain people for us to be accepted or be attractive to the men. IT IS A BIG LIE!

Now, do not get me wrong. Being over-weight is bad. After all I am trying to lose some weight myself because what goes on inside the body is very important. But I strongly believe it is bad mostly for health reasons and fashion takes the last seat in my list of reasons (in my own opinion). But honey, if u desire to lose weight just to be like beyonce or kim Kardashian then u have a big problem! Aim to lose weight to be like you, boost your health, increase your life expectancy and be happy! Do not do it even do it for a man. I have often heard some ladies say “my husband/boyfriend says I should lose weight…” what I ask inwardly is “is that what you want?” Of course the opinion of your partner matters and pleasing him is important as well but you should come first. Your happiness should be paramount! If he reasonably complains about a thing, then think about it carefully and see the reasons (from his point of view) why the issue has come up, why you should do it, then do it.

Every time I hear that men like their women slim yet every Saturday I see big ladies (like me) getting hooked and walking down the altar! Who is kidding who? look, it is not your body that makes you beautiful, your spirit and attitude does! A woman with low self-esteem, little confidence and a bad attitude won’t cut it for any serious minded man worth his onions. So for me, a hot slim body is just a little icing on the cake.

One truth I have come to learn is this: if you do not love yourself at size 20, you will never love yourself even at size 6! SELF HATE is the worst form of mental imprisonment you can put yourself in. I was once there. Suffering from low self-esteem and thinking that any guy who chats me up and says “you are pretty” was doing me a favour. Trust me it’s is a bad state to be in. I am glad I have come out of that dungeon and learning to love me as I am now (person and body) while I keep working to get to the healthy size I want to be. It’s a process and a journey I am happy to be on. You too can shake off that mentality today. 

Sweetie, you are AMAZING just the way you are and NEVER let ANYONE tell you otherwise! Shed some weight if you have need to do so, change your bad eating habits, improve on any bad attitude, dress gorgeous, hold your head up high, carry yourself like you are worth a million bucks, be happy and simply be YOU!

Life is far too short to spend it wishing you are Kim K!

The end.

Have a FAB weekend guys!

Love,

Ella…xxx

GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!...by Ella

Yesterday I woke up feeling my world was passing me by. I set goals for myself at the start of this year and I lay down thinking about how I have not achieved most of them. I have only succeeded in giving myself reasons why I cannot do this or that. The year is already half way gone .Time to re-evaluate.

One of my goals for this year is to lose weight. I began this year at size 20 (121kg). Six months after I am down to a size 18 (110kg). That means I lost just 11kg in 6mnths at an average of 1.83kg per month. That in my dictionary is no success at all! And anyone will be foolish to think it is. So I began thinking that I need to do something fast about it if I am going to reach my goal by my next birthday (6 months away). I have decided to make serious and drastic adjustments to my diet and exercise routine.

However, something happened a few days ago that gave me a fresh perspective. I was talking to a friend’s friend (who is also struggling with his weight) about my target and how I want to go about it. He kept saying ‘all these diet and exercise things don’t work joor and besides I never sweat in the gym no matter what I do’. Since I had that same problem when I started going to the gym (probably because it was cold here so sweat is a luxury you have to work for. Lol) I devised a means to make me sweat very well while I work out. I wear a thick hooded jumper (sweater) while working out and trust me it works! I find me sweating profusely by the time I am done with my 3mile run on the treadmill and it makes me feel like I have done some work. So I shared this trick with this dude and what does he say?

‘Ah! I can’t do that o.’

‘Why’ I asked  

‘All those sweaters dey itch my arms. Especially with sweat’

‘How do you know? Have u tried before?’ I pressed

‘I just know. All those things no dey agree with my skin’ he answered

‘Well there’s always a price to pay for any result we want’ and with that I quietly walked away

This may seem like a conversation we should laugh over and brush aside. But there and then it occurred to me that WE ARE OUR OWN OBSTACLES TO OUR PROGRESS! Yes us. You and me. Most times we find excuses as to why we cannot do one thing or the other. Telling ourselves we tried our best. This is a guy who was telling me how all his shirts he brought from Nigeria do not fit any more. And all he could think of coming up with is that ‘sweaters itch me when I sweat!’  Sigh

I refuse to be my own obstacle any more. Enough of the laid back attitude! I choose today to take the bulls by the horn, fight these demons and make my dreams come true. Whatever your targets and goals for this year are, as we step into the second half of the year, take stock and choose to do same too. There is still plenty of time to make that dream come true. The hard truth is that no one can help you achieve your dreams so put on the achievers’ spirit and stop making excuses for yourself. Start making things happen. It’s time to kick some ass! Enough said.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!

BECOME LIMITLESS!

SAY NO TO LIMITATION!

GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!

Remain Super Awesome and have a blessed July!

Love,

ELLA….xxx